It's Not About Me

Do you ever feel like you're too much in your head? I'm pondering on this idea this morning, as I read emails this morning over my breakfast.

Being a New Year, so many times, like many others do, I find myself wanted to begin anew and put an end to bad behaviors and habits, put more effort into giving back and generally try to be a better person, day in and day out. This is admirable I think, this effort and conscious decision to always improve upon one's self and how we choose to live our lives, but in doing so, I sometimes wonder if we're over thinking the whole thing.

It occurs to me that if I remember one simple important fact, that my life will not only improve in quality and quantity, but that the world as a whole will improve exponentially as well. This simple important fact? IT'S NOT ABOUT ME.

IT'S NOT ABOUT ME.

Let's not mistake my meaning though. I don't mean we do not have responsibility for ourselves, our own life and our own actions and needs. We do. But so much of the time, is it possible that we might be placing the focus and attention, our energy and personal power in the wrong place? Who or what do we honor by fighting with our own thoughts and beliefs? ** What if??**

~ What if we were to focus on considering the other person's perspective instead of our own in time of conflict or disagreement?

~ What if we were to put the other person's feelings and needs before our own in times of choice and opportunity?

~ What if we were to serve without the expectation of being served in return?

~ What if we really listened instead of using that time to form our own words we will defend ourselves by?

What if? What 'What-if's' come to mind for you?

_ “During our lives...we experience so many setbacks, and fight such a hand-to-hand battle with failure, head down in the rain, just trying to stay upright and to have a little hope.” ~ Lance Armstrong_

I imagine that by focusing on actioning these opportunities and others, and taking the focus off of my own personal wants and beliefs, brings a sense of freedom. And in choosing to live my life in such a way, what more do we gain as a whole?

Hope... Trust... Self Belief... Possibility... Growth... Joy... Connection... Peace... and the list goes on... All of these things I have the opportunity to gain when I make the conscious choice to get out of my own head and simply live in the knowledge that it's not about me.

Life is meant to be shared. Good and bad, joy and sorrow, beautiful and ugly, life is all of these things and we are part of it all. It's not about me and it's not about you.* It's about US.* Together. Different but the same. And when we really get that and live in such a way, we grow beyond our own understanding. How cool is that?

More to come...in the meantime, I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas around living beyond the you. Help me to grow beyond my own understanding. :)

_* Your voice, your song, is a sound to be heard and shared, intertwined with all of the other voices and songs created and alive in and around our world. Together,all of our voices lifted in song, create a symphony that can conquer all sorrow, all pain and all self doubt. ~ Veronica _*

Comments

[carmen]

This is an interesting thought. Because we live in a me society it is easy to forget about the 'us'. I think the government amplifies this in most things they do. How could that not trickle down into the rest of the country and therefore into each community. But I think there are rebels. I've seen communities, neighbors, schools, towns and cities come together in a crisis supporting each other and reverting back to what 'community' actually means. It blows me away when I witness such amazing acts of kindness and selflessness. It gives me faith in people again. So the challenge is living that way without needing a crisis, to live for each other on the good days, on the days that have gone sideways and days when we can barely breath because of the busyness that we've created. Maybe it's time to be a rebel -- I like the sound of that!

[Marcia]

Learning this a lot lately...thanks for sharing my friend! Love this!!